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Not Invited

For the second time this summer, I was not invited to a wedding that I was sure I would be invited to.  First, it was my friend (I’ve already written about that.  Let’s move on.), and now, it’s one of H’s friends.  I can see the reasoning – I’ve been in and helped plan enough weddings to understand it.  H was in this guy’s fraternity.  If other brothers are going to be there, they will all know each other.  Hence, plus-one’s are not necessary. But.  There’s always a but.

I have been with H for over a year and a half.  I’ve heard the stories of these friends since I met him.  I’ve heard all about their antics at the fraternity house, their weekends meeting in an awesome central-location city.  I watch as he giggles incessantly at their group messages on his phone.  I want to meet these people, these grown men who can make H laugh harder than I can.  But now I’m afraid I may never get the chance.

He’s been hyping up this wedding for quite a long time.  I wrote it in my calendar months ago, and H has been planning to attend the Bachelor Party for months.  Now what?  Is he going to drive six hours by himself, twice, and leave me at home?  Or can I be added to the RSVP card?  What is the proper etiquette here?

I’ve talked to both K and J1 (K is married and J1 is planning her wedding), and they had conflicting advice.  My mother said that no adult should be sending out wedding invitations to out-of-town guests without giving them a plus-one.  I’m not sure what H should do, to be honest.  I’m not sure where I fall into all of this.  How am I supposed to feel?  I live with H, I spend all of my free time with him, and yet I don’t get to accompany him to his friend’s wedding?  It just doesn’t seem right.

I guess I may have an update on this situation in a couple of weeks.  We will see.

What are your thoughts?  I’m interested in hearing anything and everything.

-A.

Psych, "Deez Nups"

"Meanwhile Back at Mama's" by Tim McGraw

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